One Night Only…Lifetime Heartache?

One Night Only…Lifetime Heartache?

By ANA KRISTINE B. VALENZUELA

IT may be with a longtime crush, or some random stranger whom you met at a summer gig on the beach. Either way, a one night stand is sudden, reckless, and well, pleasurable. No strings attached.

But although the parties involved—two people who have taken the shortcut to realizing their sexual fantasies—know the consequences of their actions, feelings might not be shared later. A study conducted by the Durham University in England showed that, overall, women's morning-after feelings are more negative than men's. Eighty percent of men had positive views, while women only had 54 percent.

Some women do not share the men’s positive feelings toward one night stands because they think that they have much to lose, like an unplanned baby--a big responsibility especially if the father does not hold himself accountable. There are those who also feel cheap and used afterwards.

The 54 percent of the women who feel positive about it, however, do it for the heck of it. It makes them feel empowered.

Quick Take

If you have no problem engaging in one night stands, here are things you should remember:

• Try to get noticed. If you are in a bar, strut your stuff in the middle of the dance floor and make eye contact with a hot guy.
• Once you’ve snagged the hot guy, let the conversation flow naturally. Use this as an opportunity to practice your sex moves on him.
• But since you’ve never done it with this guy before, think of safety especially against sexually transmitted diseases. Girl, painful to the body and might wipe off your savings account-- if you have any.
• After doing it with him, tell him that you had a good time--be it sincere or not.

Off Limits

Avoid doing it with

· A coworker. This may taint your professional reputation.

· A family friend. Just imagine the endless interrogations from your mom, aunt, or any member of your family when they learn about it.

· Sibling’s friend, friend’s sibling, ex’s friend, friend’s ex. As the saying goes, gossip travels fast. Next thing you know, a mutual friend already knows the sordid details of your activity.

· Someone who likes you. You could end up hurting the person as he might be expecting a relationship out of the chance encounter.