'I had a one night stand with a married man'

'I had a one night stand with a married man'

As told to ANA KRISTINE B. VALENZUELA

I DIDN’T seduce Doods, no. I didn’t seduce him just to have a one night stand with him. I thought that with him, it would be something special. But as cliché as it may sound, I thought wrong.

It had been a long time since I was eyeing Doods. We knew each other and had common friends. We went to the same school, and were basically part of the same neighborhood. Unfortunately, apart from these, all we shared was the occasional hi and hello.

It was one night when I finally got to know him more. My friend Missy invited me to a drinking session down at her place. So not wanting to be left out, and being much of a partygoer, I accepted her invitation.

We already had a few shots and were having riotous fun when Missy's neighbor, Jeff, and three other guys guys happened to pass by. Doods happened to be one of them. Jeff asked if they could join, and at first Missy and I were apprehensive--but it was all just part of our pakipot tactics. We eventually gave in and the guys bought some more beer.

Doods, surprisingly, sat right next beside me. I told him that it was okay for him to join us--to join me. He said that he had been wanting to do so, for a very long time. I answered, "Go. Let’s see if you can keep up with me."

At first, the evening was the usual get-together, with friends drinking, talking, and having a good time. Then Doods's attention suddenly shifted towards me. He was only speaking to me, saying things that I thought were purely personal. He was really sweet, catering to my every whim.

A few bottles of beer, few shots of rhum, and a whole lot of chatter later, I didn’t know what was going on. All I could remember was a dazed memory of me and him, in bed, his arms around my shoulders, his lips playfully going through my lips and neck.

After that night, Missy asked what had happened. I told her about Doods and me. Then she said that I should be careful as Doods already has a wife and kid living somewhere else. I didn’t believe her. I thought it was just a nasty rumor. Still, I was hurt by what my friend told me. I didn’t know whether to be hurt by my friend or by Doods. Doods and I were still exchanging a few text messages. I was sure if he was married he would have told me.

Missy and I held a drinking session again, with Doods and his friends. No one made a fuss of what happened between Doods and me. It was like there was nothing going on. I sat beside Doods and asked him if he had a problem. I didn’t know whether to be thankful or not as he was confident enough to say yes. He said he had problems with his wife and child.

Whoa, Missy was right. The guy I had a one-night stand with was married! But I didn't show Doods I cared about him being married-- even as I thought that there was something between us. How could he have played with my feelings that way? I don’t want to sound selfish, but who cares about his family problems? He could have been more sensitive and not classified me as a reliever. Sure, I had a string of flings, but he should have known that I am not that kind of woman.

After that night I tried to avoid him, but it wasn’t easy. We frequently bumped into each other on our street. I constantly view his Facebook updates, and he sends me text messages asking for advice. Sometimes I ignore him, and when he asks why, I just say I am busy. Thankfully though, I got accepted to a new position with a brand new company. So I now I just try to focus more on work.

Now, Doods and I are, I guess, friends as we still hang out. But that's about it.

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